Don’t be sad always keep smile…
Don’t get angry, be cool. Don’t be disappointed Stay strong, be positive.
Fellow toastmasters, Is it really
possible to stay happy always, is it really possible to be positive and
motivated every single day. Have anyone done that? No…
Go to any books shop , you will
find a array of self-help books promising – 7 secrets to stay happy , your
inbox is filled with emails of stress
relief and anger control workshops and there an emerging professional who call
themselves as life coaches.
Turns out this is an 11 billion
dollar market in US. India is not left behind, 95 lakh self-help books are sold
annually by the ecommerce giants. So what does this mean? Very simple staying
happy , staying motivated , staying positive , controlling you anger .. all
your emotions are made in to a commodity and sold in the market.
Before going further let us
understand what is an emotion… Emotion comes from the word motion which means
that something that changes continually. And the prefex “e” denotes the word
out … the name itself suggests that emotion is something that keeps changes and
has to be let out, expressed or experienced.
There are only 6 kinds of emotions
Happy , sad, Anger , fear disgust and surprise and all others emotions are just
a combination all these.
This moment you are sad that moment
you are happy. Even the angriest man laughs sometimes. Even the saddest man
smiles. Even one who laughs continuously sometimes cries and weeps and that is
why they are called emotions.
Recently I saw, the movie inside
out. Though the movie is meant for kids,
I would recommend it for all adults.
The movies shows the circus of emotions
happening inside a 11 year old Riley who deals with moving to a new city, new
home and new school. The movies takes
place mostly in the head of this gal, with Joy Sadness anger fear and disgust
as the main characters. The emotions are led by joy. Same like our lives how we
over rate happiness. Early in the film, Joy admits
that she doesn’t understand what Sadness is for or why it’s in Riley’s head.
Joy always wants to keep Riley happy. Trying to force
Riley to be happy actually does not help Riley deal with the stress and
transitions in her life. And also made her feel isolated and angry with her
parents , which ultimately factors her decision to run away from home.
Thus making happiness an explicit goal in life can
actually make us miserable
But the moment she allows herself to feel sadness in
addition to fear and anger. About her idea to run away from home, she decides
not to go with her plan. This choice reunites Riley with her family, giving her
a deeper sense of happiness and contentment in the comfort she gets from her
parents, even though it’s mixed with sadness and fear.
At one time or another, many of us have probably
wondered what purpose sadness serves in our lives.
At the end of the movie Sadness actually emerges as the
hero of the movie. Because sadness help to connect with people – what we call
as empathy , a critical component of happiness.
Thus even sadness can trigger
happiness.
Emotions are neither good nor bad,
stop judging them. Instead start being aware of your emotions. IF you become
aware of certain emotion and by becoming aware the emotion dissolves , then it
is a negative emotion. If by becoming aware of a certain emotion you become the
emotion and if the emotion spreads, then its positive. By using the word aware
, I mean to be watchful or become an witness. Next time you are angry or in a
difficult situation ,just come out of yourself and just be a watcher. You will
start to understand the whole purpose of that emotion itself
If you are rational , you become a
scientist. But if you are emotional , you become a poet.
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